Being an Au Pair in the USA can come with a lot of opinions. If you have ever told someone you are thinking about being an Au Pair, chances are you have heard a myth or two. Some are outdated, some are exaggerated, and some are flat out wrong. We are here to clear the air! Keep reading as we debunk the top myths about being an Au Pair in the U.S. using real life Au Pair experiences.
Myth 1: Au Pairs work all day, every day
This myth is flat out wrong, the Au Pair program in the USA has strict regulations set by the U.S. Department of State (DOS). Every Host Family and Au Pair in the U.S. is required to follow these regulations and Go Au Pair pays special attention to every Au Pair placement to ensure work limits are followed.
In the U.S. Au Pairs can work a maximum of 45 hours per week and no more than 10 hours per day. This is not a suggestion, it’s an official DOS rule. Au Pairs are also guaranteed at least one full day and half day off each week and one full weekend off per month. Au Pairs also get two weeks of paid vacation during their year in the U.S.
It’s true some days may feel long and busy (kids are kids) but you and your Host Family have the work limits to lean on. If a Host Family expects more work hours than what is allowed, that’s a program violation, and you should report it to Go Au Pair.
Myth 2: You can't travel or have a social life
This myth comes up all the time and goes hand in hand with myth one. As mentioned before Au Pairs have guaranteed time off, including weekly days off, paid vacation, and long weekends. Many Au Pairs use their time off to explore the U.S., make friends, and experience their local community.
Some may think your Host Family controls your entire life during the program but that is simply not true. You are part of the family, not controlled by them. Host Families don’t get to decide who you are friends with, what you do on your days off, and how you spend your personal time. You are an adult with independence.
Having responsibilities doesn’t mean you are giving up your life. By managing your time and clear communication with your Host Family you can absolutely explore, travel, and enjoy everything the U.S. can offer.
Being an Au Pair also comes with a built in social network. You can meet Au Pairs in your local area, make friends at your education classes, or by joining local groups and activities. Most Au Pairs end up with a full calendar of plans with friends.
“They gave me the courage to achieve my dream; it was my greatest dream to study at a university. I have always dreamed of being able to learn many different things, to learn from different places and different people. They have both been through this whole process of challenges and learning, they have never left me alone and they have always been there for me. Achieving this has been one of the most satisfying feelings.”
Au Pair – Genesis from Ecuador
Myth 3: Au Pairing is just for women
This is a common misconception about the Au Pair program in the USA. Many are not aware that men can also be Au Pairs and are often sought out by U.S. Host Families. It’s true that the majority of participants are women but men can absolutely participate in the program.
Being an Au Pair isn’t about gender it’s about responsibility, cultural exchange, and child care skills. Families that choose a male Au Pair are common, especially families with children that are all boys, older children, or sports loving families.
Often referred to as a “Bro Pair” because of their tendency to be like a big brother to their Host Kids, male Au Pairs bring a unique bond with their own special vibe. Read more about why Host Families love male Au Pairs here.
“Nick comes from South Africa, he is our first male au pair (a result of our boys declaring firmly “no more girls!”) and we are extremely grateful for the relentless energy he gives to our children every day and for the positive influence he has on our busy household.”
Host Mom – Luba
Myth 4: Au Pairs don't really get paid
This myth is extremely important to debunk. Au Pairs in the U.S. get weekly pay and benefits that are outlined by the U.S. Department of State (DOS).
Au Pairs receive a weekly stipend that is set by the DOS. On top of that Au Pairs receive:
- Free room and board provided by your Host Family
- Health insurance
- Contribution toward college courses
While being an Au Pair in the U.S. isn’t a high pay job it does factor in living costs, travel opportunities, and cultural exchange. Host Families provide basic living necessities so Au Pairs can use their stipend to enjoy experiences during their free time.
Myth 5: If things go wrong, you're stuck
This myth can be scary, but don’t worry if things are not going right, you have options. If a placement isn’t working out for any reason you can decide to end your placement and try to find a new Host Family. It’s not fun, but it happens and Go Au Pair is there to help you through it.
You are not trapped and you don’t have to stay in an unhappy or unfair situation just to “push through.” Go Au Pair has a great support system for Au Pairs to help mediate when things aren’t going how you hoped and help you find a Host Family that is a better fit for you.
“During the last days of my rematch process, my faith was lost, but I received a message telling me something like, “We are looking for an Au Pair, we can have an interview in a few days.” I said yes, without hope. Our first interview was on Sunday, at 10 pm, and we talked for more than an hour, about everything, we couldn’t stop talking, I felt like talking with old friends, I felt that connection.”
Au Pair – Adriana from Colombia
The bottom line
Being an Au Pair in the U.S. comes with myths and opinions. It’s not always perfect and it’s not for everyone. But, it’s also not the scary story or fantasy that many myths make it out to be. Like with any experience it depends on your expectations, communications, and the people involved.
If you go in informed and prepared your Au Pair experience can be challenging, rewarding, and a genuinely life changing experience.
Are you ready to start your Au Pair journey? Click here to learn more about becoming an Au Pair and start the process now.
