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When Matching Trust your Instincts

So many times when I talk to Host Families and ask them how they knew their Au Pair was right for them, they tell me something about their “guts.” At first I wasn’t sure how to react to this. If a potential Host Family were to call in and ask a placement coordinator to find someone who would just feel right for their family, I don’t know that we could get them very far. As a result I started asking families what it meant, “to trust your gut instinct,” and I have since run into a lot of great answers.
My all-time favorite response came from a Host Mom from Indiana who told me her first Au Pair was not a good match and it was apparent from the moment she arrived. This mom said she had checked all her boxes and did all the due diligence to make sure the match was everything she wanted, but when the Au Pair arrived it was not a match and she moved onto another family. The next round this Host Mom decided to throw out the detail work and just focus on chemistry. She wanted to know when her Au Pair arrived, they would get along great. This past year with her new Au Pair was spectacular. The Au Pair and family became the best of friends.  This Host Mom’s advice to Host Families moving through the matching process is: “once you have the chemistry feeling then check the boxes, but don’t check boxes if you don’t have it.”
Bringing in an Au Pair is like no other match on earth, except maybe matching with your spouse. You’re in each other’s space, you raise the kids as a team and you have to put up with each other’s nuances. You need to be able to talk to each other and actually like one another. Recognize you and your Au Pair will need shared values and that bringing together these values is what makes a truly rich experience for both the family and Au Pair. Basically, pay attention to what your guts are telling you and don’t settle for just anyone who may meet your list of childcare expectations. 

Posted: 8/20/2013 10:35:13 AM by Summer Blackhurst
Aimee, how has just trusting your guts worked for you so far?
I find a balance of heart AND mind works better in the long run.
8/23/2013 3:46:31 PM
Loved your blog post on the topic of matching! Thanks Aimee!
8/22/2013 9:32:33 PM
When choosing a traditional child care provider, like a day care center or a date night sitter, we trust our guts. Why not with au pair care?
8/20/2013 6:46:25 PM
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