I have a friend who adopted a little Spanish boy. The birth mother placed with my friend because she had spent time abroad and speaks Spanish fluently. As my friend’s boy has gotten older she has noticed other children distancing themselves from her son, because of his skin color. He is Latin but lives in an all white family and community.
Many families in these cross-cultural adoptions search for ways to make sure their children fit into their community and can embrace their identity. I have spoken to Host Families, who have adopted children from another culture, who choose to bring in an Au Pair to help their adopted children feel confident about their identity
. Some will also use their Au Pair to help their children maintain their native language.
With November being National Adoption month, it is a great time to let families know how Au Pairs can play a unique role in supporting families of adopted children. According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, 25 percent of adoptions
are international adoptions.
Parents can’t help but worry about their children having a strong sense of self. My friend attends meetings for cross-cultural families to help her understand how to best help her boy to develop a strong identity and greater confidence. Host Families, who bring in Au Pairs to help with their internationally adopted children, can find some great benefits from the cultural exchange. In the Au Pair, the children have someone who shares their race and heritage and they can be proud of the heritage they share.
Posted: 11/6/2013 12:22:01 PM